We get to the point in life when we Boomer Grandmas have so much “stuff.” It usually comes at the same time as when we have to consider downsizing. In a Dear Abby column, January 11, 2015, a reader gave Abby a great idea. Here is the question and answer from the column:
Dear Abby: I was talking to my daughter about what I would want for a birthday present since I have plenty of `stuff’ and I am trying to get rid of it. Could I suggest that instead of giving me something, she come and take something? What do you think? Ann
I think it’s a novel idea for someone who is downsizing, and if you and your daughter have similar taste, she would appreciate it. Start by saying, “It’s better to give than to receive. . . ”
This Grandma loves this idea. However, Dear Abby has an interesting point. Our `stuff’ may not appeal to the next generation. I think it might be better to start with a category of `stuff,’ such as jewelry or old family photograph albums, that might be less objectionable than an old couch!
What we want to `collect’ when we are young old is experiences that are meaningful in our lives. I always ask for a new family picture, and a birthday or special event is a good time to request that everyone come together for such a family picture. It is hard for the family to say no when it is for a birthday present.
So now there is a new idea given by Ann to Dear Abby. Use your birthday as an opportunity to give what you have. One of the most meaningful items my mother (GG– great grandmother) gave me was the first pot she bought when she arrived in America. I have it still and cannot wait to hand it down to my granddaughter. It was greatly used before I received it but I have never used it. I see it every time I open the pot cabinet. It ties me to my history and will tie the generations together.
We need to think of something meaningful and share the meaning and history of the item we are giving as our birthday present to our children and grandchildren. Then, maybe whether or not it fits the “similar taste” criteria won’t be so significant.
I already have some jewelry in mind to pass along from GG (great grandmother) . . . .
Joy,
Mema
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